WHAT IT REALLY TAKES TO RECOVER FROM PAIN AND LOSS

WHAT IT REALLY TAKES TO RECOVER FROM PAIN AND LOSS

From oprah.com by author Gary Zukav, taken from his book The Seat of the Soul

Most people try to help you feel better when you are in emotional pain, but they don't know how. For example, when my first engagement ended (about 25 years before I met Linda Francis), friends sympathized with me, empathized with me and tried to console me. "Don't worry," they said. "It takes a little time to heal." 

They were incorrect. It takes far more than time to heal. Romantic love is often, as it was in my case, "romantic need." But my friends did not know that and they recommended the usual prescription: Get another relationship. They also didn't know that my next relationship would bring the same things into my awareness that my previous one had if I did not change myself. 

They thought the causes of my suffering lay in the external world. Their remedy, therefore, was to change the external world. But changing the outside world in order to feel better, or safer, no longer works. Human consciousness—the consciousness of our entire species—is changing. We now have more than the system of the five senses to tell us about the world and ourselves. We are becoming "multisensory." 

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